Traits of a narcissistic mother

Realizing that your mother may not be capable of real love or empathy may be shocking and hard to swallow. If you ever thought this before, you might have brushed it away. Daughters blame themselves for their mother's inability to love them. Mothers are supposed to be the most reliable resource of love, comfort, and empathy, and if your mother didn't provide that to you, you most likely denied your feeling about it because it's too painful to accept.

Children of narcissistic parents go through their lives feeling confused, lost, and alone. As a child, you were probably very good at denying or numbing your feelings and putting on whatever mask needed to feel accepted by your mom. This most likely impacted your beliefs, behaviors, and self-esteem well into adulthood.

If you are now wondering if your mother is a narcissist, here are some typical behaviors of narcissistic mothers.

She acts like the world revolves around her

Lacks empathy

Critical to you

She is moody and unpredictable

She's jealous of you

Gaslighting

She's overly concerned about how others preserve her

She's always the victim

She uses aches, illness, and health issues - either real or imagined - to ensure the attention is on her

She made you feel like a slave

She's immature and selfish

May weep or cry uncontrollably as a method of control

She has always had things her way

When you talk about your issues, she diverts the issues to talk about herself

When you discuss your feelings, she tops them with her own

Only support things you do that make her look good as a mother

Lack of emotional closeness

Consistency confused if your mom even likes you

Despite being invalidated and abused by your mother, there is always a chance to heal from all the negative messages she instilled in your mind.

Healing is ALWAYS a possibility and a choice we all have. No matter how much you have suffered because of her and your upbringing.

I will talk about this more in the posts to follow.